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The recent legal and essentially moral debate over the marital status of same-sex couples in the state of California is quite an interesting one, one that cannot be described as a human rights issue as so many people wish to frame it.  It is not a human rights or even more broadly equal rights for there is not a single right that is denied same-sex couples in the state of California.  Aside from name, same-sex couples are afforded all the rights and privileges as hetero sexual couples by the laws of the great state of California.  Granting them the "right" to be called married is not a right at all, it is an issue of language, and language is the most fundamental tool for expressing ideas.  If same-sex couples are allowed to be called married, it would afford them no legal rights they are currently lacking, either in the state of California or anywhere else in the United States of America.

Even if California were to extend the term marriage to include same-sex couples, they would still face the same problems as they do now in terms of inheritance, hospital visitation outside the state of California, for their marriage would only be legally valid within the borders of states that have also chosen to apply the term marriage to same-sex relationships.  Other issues, such as hosting  and sponsoring immigrants would also remain unaltered; being as they are issues that fall under Federal jurisdiction and the state of California has no say over such matters.

So, if applying the term marriage to same-sex couples under California law would not grant same-sex couples a single legal right or privilege they are currently denied, either within the state of California or anywhere else in the entire United States of America, why are proponents of same-sex marriage working so hard to have the term marriage be applied to same-sex unions?

The answer to this question, lies at the heart of the opponents of same-sex marriage.  This fact definitively bears witness to the fact that the issue has nothing to do with human rights whatsoever, though the vast majority of same-sex marriage proponents attempt to constantly frame it as such in order to invoke American morals of equality and gain the moral high ground while at the same time demoralizing and essentially, demonizing opponents of same-sex marriage.

In the end, as well as the beginning, the "Alpha and Omega" of the issue so to speak, as I alluded to above, is an issue of language and ideology.  If it is not legal rights that the proponents of same-sex marriage are after, then what is it?  It is acceptance.  Proponents of same-sex marriage want same-sex unions to be put on equal footing and be equally accepted, both ideologically and morally by the citizens of the great state of California.  Rather than having partners, they want to have husbands and wives.  Rather than having unions, they want to have marriages to feel as though their unions are viewed as being both equal and synonymous with heterosexual legal marriages.

Thus, it is a battle over ideology, not inalienable rights.

This is why after the Supreme Court of California's ruling to apply the term marriage to same-sex unions there was an immediate mobilization among the citizens of California to draft Proposition 8.  Though our legislature has the job of passing laws to keep our society free from oppression, tyranny and anarchy, it does not have the job to define the ideology of California's citizens.  The majority of Californians, as demonstrated on November 4, 2008, do not ideologically believe, think or feel that same-sex committed relationships are synonymous to heterosexual marriages.  We great citizens DO believe that individual who wish to form same-sex unions do have the inalienable right to have all the rights and privileges that heterosexual couples are accorded under the law, for heterosexuality and homosexuality are moral issues, ones that are subjective, vary from faith to faith and culture to culture.  We citizens of California are strong defenders of democracy and defenders of both the California and American Constitutions as well as the Bill of Rights.  Thus, we are not going to try and force our personal ideas and choices onto others who do not feel the same.

But…we ask the same in return!

Being that Proposition 8 passed and the citizens of the great state of California made it known that ideologically, they do not believe that the term marriage applies to same-sex couples, whether the Supreme Court of California had ruled to overturn Proposition 8 or to uphold it on March 26, 2009, the proponents of same-sex marriage had already lost the battle.  The battle is over acceptance and ideology, on November 4, 2008 the citizens of California made it known that same-sex unions are not considered equal or synonymous with heterosexual marriages.  The proponents of same-sex marriage are fighting for acceptance and no matter what laws may be passed or what the California legislature may or may not allow, homosexuality has never and will never be considered equal or synonymous to heterosexuality by California's citizens.

But those who wish for acceptance, claiming that they are denied specific rights, have forgotten who they are fighting with.  They are fighting with their neighbors, their friends, families and co-workers, people who both love and respect them.  People who would never wish anything but the best for them and never, ever, wish to take away any level of human dignity away from them either through legislation or any other way.  Neither would we wish to force our opinions, lifestyle or ideologies upon them.  But that is exactly what they are trying to do to us.

So whether the next steps the proponents of same-sex marriage take in their fight, whether it be further state legal battles or those on the federal level, they cannot win.  The people of California do not accept homosexuality as equal or synonymous to heterosexuality, time and time again we have spoken in the polls.  Even if proponents of same-sex marriage are successful in having their ideas forced upon the majority of their neighbors, family members, friends and co-workers, on paper it may state that homosexuality is considered as equal and synonymous, in our hearts, it will never be so.

So quit fighting for acceptance by "going over our heads" by taking it to higher and higher courts as you did with the legal challenge to Proposition 8.  That will never gain you acceptance.  We as citizens have shown that we believe you should have every single legal right as heterosexual couples.  Please, as fellow citizens, afford us the same respect and courtesy to not force your opinions upon us.

 


Posts: 1 | Posted: 2:50 PM on May 27, 2009 | IP
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Language is one of the most coveted aspects of human culture. It is the foundation upon which we communicate, and therefore upon what we base our opinions and values. The idea that the symbolic meaning of a term is not a big deal is ignorant in and of itself.

The "Polls" you continue to reference are hardly valid justification for your obvious idiocy given they were incredibly close. Only a few percentage points in the wrong direction. Furthermore, these polls also do not take into account the younger generation which has been proven time and time again to hold a more accepting attitude toward homosexuality. By basing the idea of marriage around the traditional construct that is very quickly evolving is simply locking future generation, who will ultimately be the ones living with the effects of such a decision, into traditional, closed-minded society.

Furthermore no one who would believe that "homosexuality is not equal or synonymous with heterosexuality" (a quote that discloses the truth behind your cleverly disguised ignorance) can call themselves a respecting or loyal friend or relative of any gay person.

How dare you compare the oppression of a group of people in any form, legally or linguistically, to the ignorance of people who are attempting to remain at the top of an illusory social hierarchy. You admitted this yourself with your "Alpha Omega" analogy.

There are over 500 species in every genus of animal that engage in homosexuality activity or choose lifelong partners of the same sex. There is nothing unnatural or wrong about it. Humans are currently the only species that regard sexual preference as something of special interest. If anything, that leads me to believe that homophobia and bringing any negative attention to homosexuality are the truly unnatural states of mind.

And I would like you to ask yourself for a moment, are you basing any of these beliefs of yours upon any sort of moral "truth" that may or may not exist or are you just the lovechild of tradition and brainwashing? Have you been so clouded by ambiguous religious texts and the thoughts of misunderstanding forefathers that you cannot see by now, with all of our great leaps toward enlightenment, that there is nothing wrong with or unequal concerning homosexuality or bisexuality?

I believe the majority of people in California, or in any state, would agree if it were worded eloquently enough (another example of how powerful language is) that is more detrimental to children to force feed them the ancient, ignorant beliefs of their preceding culture than to allow them to embrace the one that is rapidly forming. And, I assure you, it is rapidly forming. With more and more men and women not only admitting the truth about their sexual preferences but also accepting the preferences of others, we are on the eve of a day in which homophobia or anything even remotely similar will be the sin.
Some day, people will look back and remember that people with beliefs akin to yours were the delusions upon which Adolf Hitler created his regime, upon which hysterical racists murdered millions simply because of the color of their skin. And, as history has and will show us time and time again, people with such beliefs are maniacal and are eventually exposed as such.

The only inequality I can recognize in your statements is the idea that people who will fight to end the oppression of themselves and others should be somehow demonized for not wanting others to continue doing so. I'm sure any tyrant or psychopath in history has believed at the heart of what he or she does is somehow right, that somehow they were meant to live as they wish at the expense of others.

No matter how you disguise hatred, though, it is still hatred. If after reading all of this, though, you must continue to cling to your faulty morality in order to justify your completely unjustifiable hatred toward another group of people, then I understand. The mind does astounding things in order to keep itself from admitting it's wrong.
 


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I apologize if my passionate use of the words "maniacal, idiocy, ignorance, and tyrant" offend, though, and I hope they will not discredit me in any way. I would like to add that before you claim I am projecting my own hatred and bitterness or claim that it is not hatred you harbor at all but something completely different, please refrain from doing so. While I may be passionate, I do not hate. And regarding the latter of those two claims- if you are attempting to stifle the rights or acceptance of any group or individual then you are just as hateful as any violently abhorrent individual. The only difference is the approach you have chosen.

While sexuality is mysterious, ambiguous, and fluid, this is not. You are either against us or with us. And you are clearly against us.
 


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