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Ethmi

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    I personally think that it's not good to have plural marriages.  The polygamists in Texas generally have ten or more wives.  

    First of all, how much attention can an individual woman get when her husband is in bed with nine other wives?  That's possibly the reason why the wives tend to say "There's not much sex in a polygamist marrige."  Whether they know it or not, they're actually saying "There's not much sex for me in a polygamist marriage."

    Second, about one in twenty people have an STD.  If you have ten wives, there's a fifty percent chance that at least one of your wives has an STD!  If you count the husband, there's a fifty-five percent chance!  If just one of those people had an STD, it could spread throughout the entire family!

    Third, the wives say "only one in three polygamist husbands are abusive."  If you had a control with three unmarked switches, and one would kill you, but you didn't know which one, would you risk it?  One in three is actually a pretty large number if you think about it!  Would you want one in three people in your country to be murderers?  I wouldn't.  

(Edited by Ethmi 4/13/2008 at 01:56 AM).


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Posts: 68 | Posted: 01:54 AM on April 13, 2008 | IP
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I think you're basing your argument too heavily on statistics. Presumably you would get to know your husband before you chose to marry him, so you would find out if he was abusive/lazy. Just because X/Y people make a mistake doesn't mean that you're going to.

As for 'infected', your maths isn't quite right (think about it... if you married 20 people that wouldn't translate to a certainty that one of them was infected). If each person has a 1/20th chance of having an STD, they have a 19/20 chance of not having an STD. The chance of 11 people all not having an STD is therefore (19/20)^11 = 0.569, or 57%: a 43% chance that at least one person will be infected. Admittedly these still aren't very good odds, but this point as a whole is just a reason why you shouldn't have promiscuous unprotected sex, not why you shouldn't sleep with someone (entirely possibly using protection) who you've got to know well enough that you want to marry them.

I dislike the idea of polygamy because it unbalances relationships. If a man marries many women, or a woman marries many men, it disrupts what I see as the 'equality' of marriage in the sole individual's favour. Although there are some occasions where polygamy really is carried out truly for the sake of love (and for this reason alone I don't particularly oppose it, legally), I wouldn't like to guess how many (or how hard it is to) turn out happily for all concerned.


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Posts: 81 | Posted: 12:14 PM on April 13, 2008 | IP
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Quote from iangb at 12:14 PM on April 13, 2008 :
I think you're basing your argument too heavily on statistics.



Duh!  That's what you're supposed to base arguments on!


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Posts: 68 | Posted: 12:41 PM on April 13, 2008 | IP
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Apologies. I will clarify. I think you're relying too heavily on past statistics to force humans to act in a certain way.
I'm a 21 year old male, living in the UK. Statistically, I should die in approximately 58 years. That doesn't mean that I will, though.
Statistically, polygamous marriages are not so good  (assuming your source is valid). That doesn't mean that someone cannot live in a happy polygamous marriage.

I also think that you are looking at your statistics with a certain amount of tunnel vision. Especially your STD-related ones: as explained above, people are going to be less likely to transmit STDs through marriage because STDs are mainly transmitted through casual sex, as opposed to marital sex where there is a certain degree of trust.
EDIT: A certain amount of tunnel vision applies to your 'violence' statistic, as well. A quick look on wikipedia shows me that domestic violence is believed to affect more than 10% of the US population. Given that 55% of the eligible (ie: over the age of consent) US population is married, this makes an approximate one in five marriages which are abusive. When you compare a 20% chance of abuse with a 33% chance of abuse, the 33% doesn't seem quite so bad (although it is, admittedly, worse)

(Edited by iangb 4/13/2008 at 1:21 PM).


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