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I was introduced to computers when i was 14 (3 years ago), my grandmother bought a little HP computer as a present for me. I didnt have any experience with a computer beforhand. My mom limmited my computer time to about 30 minutes/1hr without internet. I spent most of my time playing little educational video games they bought me for about a year. I didnt take any intrest in how the computer works or serious videogames. a year after i got my first computer, my uncle introduced me to Warcraft 3, I played at his house because I didnt own the game, I also started to take interest in how computers are built. I quickly learned how to build computers and how to mess with the settings. I then moved in with my dad for about a year and spent half the time with out my computer, and when i got it back, i didnt have the internet. I then moved back in with my mom and myuncle gave me a wireless adapter so i could leach off of my neighbors wireless network. I then met a friend (Michael) in a typing class i wet to at school. 2 months later we find out that were second cousins. He introduced me to programming and newer videogames. I learned how to program in VB, and i want to learn C, and some other languages. Im also learning how to design 3d models in a program called Maya7.

Now, heres my problem, my favorite video game is World of warcraft. I spend almost all day on the computer, except when my parents ask me to do chores, when i have to do home school or work. The time I spend on the computer is divided in 2, half is World of warcraft, the other half is learning Maya and programming languages. Note, my mom has put me in charge of getting my schoolwork done and turned in, I am passing my classes, I do my schoolwork before getting on the computer (most of the time) and Im maintaining a job, and when im asked to do a chore, i stop what im doing and do it. My mom says that I have a computer addiction. I see the situation as I spend my free time playing games and learning about programming etc., when i need to do somthing (school, chores, work etc.) I do it, i have my prioritys set. Now, she is having me write a paper on "computer addictions" I just dont see any downside to me spending alot of my time on the computer...

Any thoughts on the situation?


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Posts: 4 | Posted: 08:18 AM on September 8, 2006 | IP
Flob

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Feel free to take a look at how i represent myself for a little insight on the situation

www.myspace.com/hockeygoalie8919

(sorry for the spelling, im dyslexic)


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Posts: 4 | Posted: 08:26 AM on September 8, 2006 | IP
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As long as you ARE spending your free time doing it (in other words, you get your homework and chores done BEFORE you start playing on the computer) and you can take a day off from it without thinking about it all the time, I don't think you have an addiction.  Think of it this way, if your parents told you that they were taking you out camping for the week, would the first thing you think about be how much fun you were going to have camping, hiking, fresh air, exercise, whatever or would it be "A whole WEEK without the computer!?!?!?" That should probably answer the question for you.


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Posts: 1287 | Posted: 5:53 PM on September 8, 2006 | IP
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hmm, ok. When it comes to other things i enjoy, (hockey, skateboarding, and partying with friends etc..) I dont have a problem walking away from the computer to do those things. And almost all the time (not every time) when im asked to do a chore, i get right up and do it. But, i have mentioned all of this to my mom, and she sees it, but she still thinks im addicted. My parents and I disagree on almost everything (what teenage/parent relationship isnt like that) I really am not happy with my family, the way they look a life and live has been pusing me away from them since before the computer came into the picture. I try to avoid arguments but that doesnt always work. Also, im not a people person, i dislike the generation i was born into and because of this, i find very few people i can stand. I am a bit mature for my age and generally dont mingle with people my age, and most of my friends in college. So i spend almost all of my free time on the computer, not just video games, but learning programming languages. I dont know how to sort this situation out,  when it comes down to it, fact is over ruled by their opionion. So even if im not addicted to the computer, they will treat the situation as if I were. Should I just agree with everything they say (even the most rediculous) and completely give in?

sorry for the rant, I just got off of work, pizza place on a friday night = 650 pizzas with a rolling pin, not fun...


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Posts: 4 | Posted: 10:33 PM on September 8, 2006 | IP
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Fact is, you're still living under their roof and you're still their child.  If you rebel against them over something like this they are just going to see it as immaturity.  Best solution might be to split the difference.  You say you're not a people person, but try to find a different outlet for some of your free time.  I know you mentioned you are dyslexic (and since I've no experience with that...) so I'm not sure if reading is a good substitute, but surely there are others.  Let them see you doing something else occassionally with your free time and make sure you get the chores (your regular ones) done so that you mom doesn't have to interrupt you.  They should see this (hopefully) as at least an effort on your part to take their opinions into consideration.  In a year or two you should be moving out anyhow and they aren't going to see how much of your freetime you are spending on it (and you might find something in the meantime that you enjoy doing more anyhow).  Just my two cents.  Take them for what they are worth.


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Posts: 1287 | Posted: 03:51 AM on September 9, 2006 | IP
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yeah =\ I just got signed up for hockey and i might end up playing for 2 teams, the adult league and the highschools team, and its odd because recently ive spent alot of time with friends instead of the computer. She , at first, claimed I was addicted to the game World of Warcraft (which I do have to controll myself with, im not getting up in the middle of the night anymore to play) and she encouraged me to do productive things on the computer. I show her the things i make in maya and the programs I write but, instead of saying its a WoW addiction, its now a computer addiction and the video game was a cult. She denys that se said that i was addicted to WoW and that it was the computer all a long. I guess this is rather irrelevant (sorry for spelling) I just find it hard to transfer my thoughts to words. Also, i get really bad headaches when i read, im going to be tested for a stigmatism..

thanks for your help =)

(Edited by Flob 9/9/2006 at 09:53 AM).


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Posts: 4 | Posted: 09:52 AM on September 9, 2006 | IP
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"My parents and I disagree on almost everything (what teenage/parent relationship isnt like that)"

Mine isn't.


(Edited by SilverStar 1/13/2007 at 11:30 PM).


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Hello to all the members of the Forum. They are various kinds of drug treatments for various diseases. As some People don't know all these things and suffer a lot with their diseases. It could be danger for their health also. For those I suggest them with various Drug treatment centers located near to them. For details on those drug Centers.
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Posts: 1 | Posted: 11:35 AM on April 17, 2009 | IP
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Well, I'd say try to spend some free time with friends, make some relationships. Don't be a computer loner.


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